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My friend Jamye Waxman posted about this new super sexy OhMiBod video. (Sexy but not triple-x.) Which is so sexy that I went searching for my OhMiBod videos! I found this one:

All of this is made more exciting by the fact that - if you host a toy party with your friends, you can get the OhMiBod vibe for $29. That's $40 off the retail price. Plus hostesses get tons of other goodies! The more your friends buy - the more you get. And your For Your Pleasure rep has all the tools to help you be a successful hostess. Essentially you are partnering with the presenter and getting paid in product and major discounts. Everybody wins!

Bedroom Empowerment

"Nowadays, some business women are eschewing the book club and wine bar for another girls-only gathering: the sex toy party. Modeled after the traditional Tupperware party, these increasingly popular events give career women the chance to relax and buy items like lubricants and performance-enhancers in the privacy of someone's home..." -Pink Magazine, July/August 2008

It's all true. Go to a party, host a party or even start selling toys yourself... One of the great things about home parties is that they offer women a safe environment to explore the toys and tools on the market. And a chance to have honest dialog with friends about sex. To me this is a beautiful, grassroots movement. Run by women and supported by women (and some extraordinary men.) Traditionally women have been so isolated when it comes to sex. With a home party a woman can whip up a mini-movement with in her own peer group and say, "Sex is good for you. Come over to my house. We are going to have some laughs, talk about sex and make sexuality the easy going, breath of fresh air it is supposed to be!" Suddenly you've planted a little seed within your friends. Even if they don't come to the party, you have them thinking about sex. People who have not been to a good sex toy home party don't understand the power they hold. They may have misconstrued ideas that this is all about selling sex toys. In my eyes, the sex toys support the movement. Buying products means that woman at the front of the room can continue her heart-felt mission. Making sexual empowerment accessible to everyone. Especially women.

ASK DUCKY: Can I use the video on the main site?

I really love this new awesome website. Adding videos for recruiting and hosting parties on our websites would be so COOL. Can we do that? Thanks, Lara

Hi Lara. Based on your request I added the FYP on TV video to YouTube. Click here to access it. Now you can embed it onto your website, blogs, myspace or any other page you use to promote your For Your Pleasure business. Just follow this link to get the embedding codes. xoxo - Ducky

P.S. Here's what it look like...

ASK DUCKY: I think I want to sell sex toys?

Does For Your Pleasure have teaching videos to go along with the toy sales kit to show you the basics of doing a toy party? I have only been to a few but am interested in being a consultant. I just want to have something that I can refer back to.

Here’s the great thing about starting your own toy business with For Your Pleasure - you are never alone. There are so many amazing women and a few exceptional guys here to support you. If you sign up through an Independent Business Associate (IBA) you have met, they can help guide you and even do your first party with you. You can go with other IBAs to their parties to support them and learn. Beyond that, there are resources online like videos, message boards, conference calls and live chats to help support you and your business growth. Plus there is a yearly conference where everyone gathers together to share ideas and hear from professionals who have been in the business for decades. And you get more of me! I do this blog and I am active in the message boards and posting regular sex ed training materials to support your mission as a sex educator.

If you are still on the fence and wondering if doing sex toy parties is right for you, host a party and watch your party professional with a critical eye. Ask the person who does your party to stay a little after and talk details with you. She can help you decide if you should jump in and join us!

ASK DUCKY: Are glass sex toys safe?

A beautiful glass toy is smooth, sensual, rock solid and very sexy. It warms up with your body or can be popped in the refrigerator for some cool sensation play.

Glass toys are as safe as any sex toy. I say this because I believe any time you use a toy on your body you need to be conscious of what condition it is in. Is it clean? Are there any defects or cracks? If it has a motor, is it over-heating? If it plugs in, is the electrical cord intact?

Most people have a fear that a glass toy will break. These toys are made of solid glass, not unlike the baking dish or serving wear in your kitchen. They will not crack or break with normal handling. But it can be damaged if dropped. (Or thrown across the room in an orgasmic fit!) I recommend that before you use a glass toy on yourself or your partner you should inspect it. Look for any nicks in the glass, hold it up to light and look for cracks, run your hands across the surface to ensure it is smooth and intact. Inspecting all of your sex toys is an important part of taking care of your body.

Your question actually has perfect timing because one of the specials this month is the G-Spot Glass Dong. Sensually smooth and curved to hit the G spot. I know a number of women who had their first g-spot inspired orgasm while using it's solid, curved tip to massage their G spot.

Here's how you can get in on this September special... Book a party with your friends in the month of September. If your party sells at least $300 work of product, you get the G-Spot Glass Dong, Hydra Smooth lube, the Sexual Fitness DVD and, in honor of my Great Coochy Experiment - a bottle of Coochy After Shave Protection Mist. All four items for $21. (That's less than wholesale. OMG.) Plus you get to invite your friends over for an unforgettable party!

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My husband has a very bad back and has had 3 major back surgeries. Can you give me some suggestions for positions that will not be so strenuous on his back?

I think it’s so cool that you that the two of you are looking for ways to bond despite the trouble he has had with his body. The truth is that our bodies do not always work well but we still need to keep our relationships alive and growing.

Here’s the deal, back pain or no back pain, we ALL seem to put ourselves in positions that do not well support our bodies. A good sexual position is one that you can maintain comfortably and for an extended period of time. Because I do not know the exact nature of his injury (and I know a lot of people with various injuries will read this), I’m going to give you a few ideas and I hope the two of you will explore which ones that will work for him. And please be sure to check with his doctor about what kind of movements are appropriate for his body and respect those limitations above all else.

1) A super fun way of making new positions and flirty, interactive affair? Get deck of Ancient Chinese Sexual Positions Cards. Leave them on his pillow with a note saying, “Pick the cards that will feel good for your body and I’m game!” He may pick two or three cards today. Pull the deck out in three months, after he’s healed a bit, and he may pick a totally new set of cards!

2) Use this opportunity to explore other sensual acts that will be easy on his body. You could take turns playing “Queen for a Day” or “King for a Day,” where one of you totally pampers the other. Inspiring this kind of generosity in your sex play can do amazing things for your sex life.

Get some fancy bubble bath, a vibrating bath sponge and have some relaxing fun in the tub. Or a massage can be a wonderful way to have extended sex play with out the pressure on his body. For body massages try a massage candle. The candle wax melts at a very low temperature so you can pour a little bit on your bodies and work it into the skin while relaxing the muscles. You get ambiance and luscious warm massage oil at the same time! I also love the Sweet Almond Massage Oil and the Hot Heart Massager. For genital massages, go for a lube that is good for both skin-on-skin contact but also safe to use inside your body – like Infinity.

3) If this looks right for his body, invest in a Swing. Adjust the height of the swing to line your body up with his so he can stand in positions that deliver no pressure on his back. Or your could adjust the swing so it’s low to the floor so he could lay down, letting the swing hold your body weight while you bounce you way to orgasms. You may want to get the swing stand so you don’t have to worry about finding a beam in the ceiling and all the anchoring hardware that goes with it. This way you can collapse the whole thing and hide it in your closet when you in-laws come over!

And, although I have not yet tried it, the inflatable Cupids Couch also looks like a fun item for limitless position possibilities. Here’s a little video of it.

If some of these things are out of your price range or not for you, simply gather up some pillows of various shaes and sizes that you can use to prop up his body or lift your body into positions that make it easier on his body. Pillows made of memory foam will be especially useful, if you cover them with a waterproof pillowcase or towel that you can drop in the wash, even better. Get into position, move slowly and tuck pillows in around him as needed. Watch his body language and look for signed of distress in his alignment, motions or breathing and respond be adjusting your position. Try to be patient because the better the two of you care for his body today, the faster he will heal.

For Your Pleasure also has a program where, if you host a party for you and your friends, you get free stuff. The more people you invite, the more stuff you get. So if you have fun and flirty friends who would be inspired to help you earn a free Love Swing – host a party!

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