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The G Spot is the Lock Ness Monster?

The BBC recently reported, “The mysterious G spot - supposedly a route to female sexual satisfaction - can be located with ultrasound, claim Italian scientists.”

Pointing out the fact that obviously the BBC has never had sex with me! Or the countless other women who have a responsive G Spot. Because if your G spot is responsive - it’s undeniable. It's no "mystery" and certainly not "supposed."

Once again we are on the same annoying G-Spot-Go-Round. The media loves to bring up the G spot issue and argue over IF it exists or not. Website hits and magazine sales go through the roof with every turn of this old story. They love to use it as a focus for why penetrative sex is the "right" way to have sex ~ as opposed to clitoral sensation, foreplay, sex toys, etc... They love to insist that EVERY woman should be able to orgasm from penetration. Just as they love to argue over what the wetness from a woman's body is during sex play... female glandular fluid (sometimes called “ejaculation”) or pee. About once every 5 or 10 years some researcher or media outlet will whip up this argument in order to get media attention.

This is is not breaking news. Everything they have to say about the G Spot has been documented in my book. Including how to find it and why some women do or do not respond to G spot sensation. I learned it from experiencing it in my body, hands on experience with other women and from the Federation of Feminist Women's Health Clinics. And they have been making this illustrated point for decades.

There are many female-bodied sex educators like myself who are tired of the argument. To be honest I could barely read the article. It took my friend Briana had to point out that at least the BBC article has a voice of reason. She directed me to the last two quotes in the article, from Dr. Petra Boynton, a sexual psychologist at University College London, who said that women who can't find their G-spot should not think of themselves as dysfunctional.

"If a woman spends all her time worrying about whether she is normal, or has a G spot or not, she will focus on just one area, and ignore everything else. It's telling people that there is a single, best way to have sex, which isn't the right thing to do."

Restoring some of my faith in the BBC. Perhaps someone over there has had sex after all?

Link to the BBC article. | G Spot DVD | Three good toys for finding your G Spot: 1 2 3

Rock Chic: Clit & G Spot Harmony

The Rock Chic is a velvet soft, yet very solid C-shaped toy that is incredibly unique. The ergonomically curved shape is designed to create a direct connection with both your G spot and your clit. This toy can be tricky to get the hang of. Even the most experienced toy user (me!) had a bit of a learning curve (bad pun!). When I first tried the Rock Chic I turned on the subtle vibe, popped it into place and felt like the internal G spot end was too long and deep for the placement of my G spot. Somehow the connection element was not working and I attributed it the fact that I am a petite women and perhaps it was built for women of a different size? I was honestly disappointed. But the truth about any sex toy is that you may need a few experiences with it to figure out how to manipulate the toy to get the most of it with your body. With the Rock Chic the answer is right I the name. You need to really ROCK it. Sort of rolling it over and around your pelvic bone. This way the clit side, with it’s smooth bumps give a rhythmic touch to your clit while the firm G spot curve massages the length of your G spot. Once I figured out the rhythm of the toy, not only did it create and incredible connection between my clit and G spot, it had me squirting in ways that I have only experienced in the hands of partner. My entire pelvis was engaged in the play. Very cool!

INSPIRED IDEAS: You can rock it your hand as describe above. Or you could put it inside your body and sit on a solid chair or soft bed and rock your hips. Some people feel the mini bullet that comes with the Rock Chic is too subtle. You can always swap it out with a stronger bullet or, because the Rock Chic is silicone and silicone transfers vibration like no other material, I found I could set my favorite vibrator right up against the Rock Chic for earth shaking orgasms. For a little sensation play you can submerge the silicone part (taking the vibe out first) of the Rock Chic in hot tap water to warm it up or chill it on the shelf in your fridge for a cool sensation.

SPECS: It’s pink. High quality, non-allergenic, medical grade silicone. No phthalates, not sticky and has no smell. The mini bullet is solid plastic with a single speed, subtle vibration. The vibe uses 3 button batteries that are included. External length 5”. Internal length 4”. Girth 3.5”.

CLEAN IT: The pink, silicone section is waterproof so you can freely soap it up, submerged it in water and rinse clean. You can wash the pink portion on the top self of your dishwasher. Or submerge it in boiling water for 2 to 3 minutes to sterilize it. The mini bullet should not submerged in water. Wipe the bullet clean with a damp wash cloth or, for more through cleaning, wipe it with a cotton ball that is damp with rubbing alcohol.

NOTES: Designed and made in the UK. Has been featured in Cosmopolitan Magazine.

ASK DUCKY: Are glass sex toys safe?

A beautiful glass toy is smooth, sensual, rock solid and very sexy. It warms up with your body or can be popped in the refrigerator for some cool sensation play.

Glass toys are as safe as any sex toy. I say this because I believe any time you use a toy on your body you need to be conscious of what condition it is in. Is it clean? Are there any defects or cracks? If it has a motor, is it over-heating? If it plugs in, is the electrical cord intact?

Most people have a fear that a glass toy will break. These toys are made of solid glass, not unlike the baking dish or serving wear in your kitchen. They will not crack or break with normal handling. But it can be damaged if dropped. (Or thrown across the room in an orgasmic fit!) I recommend that before you use a glass toy on yourself or your partner you should inspect it. Look for any nicks in the glass, hold it up to light and look for cracks, run your hands across the surface to ensure it is smooth and intact. Inspecting all of your sex toys is an important part of taking care of your body.

Your question actually has perfect timing because one of the specials this month is the G-Spot Glass Dong. Sensually smooth and curved to hit the G spot. I know a number of women who had their first g-spot inspired orgasm while using it's solid, curved tip to massage their G spot.

Here's how you can get in on this September special... Book a party with your friends in the month of September. If your party sells at least $300 work of product, you get the G-Spot Glass Dong, Hydra Smooth lube, the Sexual Fitness DVD and, in honor of my Great Coochy Experiment - a bottle of Coochy After Shave Protection Mist. All four items for $21. (That's less than wholesale. OMG.) Plus you get to invite your friends over for an unforgettable party!

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