How do I prevent my boyfriend from having an orgasm before I want him to? I would like the sex to last longer then 20 minutes, but it seems like once I start moving my hips and getting in the groove he has an orgasm.
You can’t help it if you’re too hot to handle! And when it comes to controlling his orgasm, he really is the only one who can slow it down. But I'll give you a couple of ideas that the two of you can try together to get the ball rolling. Ultimately he needs to become more conscious in his body and learn to recognize the signs that he is about to orgasm and work to slow it down.
One sexual practice that focuses on body consciousness and orgasmic control is called Tantric Sex. Tantric practices can also teach a person of any gender how to have bigger and multiple orgasms! Tantra is an ancient Eastern study of breathing, muscle control and developing a deeper connection with your lover. It’s called a “practice” because the two of you really do need to learn the elements and practice them again and again (like yoga) in order to get the most out of your bodies. The Modern Tantra Workshop DVD can help you do that.
I also recommend trying a simple stretchy cock ring. A cock ring of this nature is very stretchy. You put his whole package (his penis and balls) through the cock ring so it’s griping the base of his penis. He needs to be semi-erect or totally erect when you put the cock ring on. Then you can go about your regular sex play. What the cock ring will do is restrict the veins that allow blood to flow out of his penis. He will have two subtle sensations – he will feel harder and he will feel bigger. It will also take him LONGER to orgasm and when he does it will be more intense. He gets all that and you get the extended play you desire. Everybody wins!
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